You can change your relationships for the better if you apply the love principle. It worked for God, it will work for you. Whether it’s your aggressive in-law, your uncooperative brother or sister, love will make you hear their voice differently; it will make you view their actions and motives differently. Take control of the relationship with patience, and see their helpless souls with a new passion. Your strength comes out as you remain unmoved by their words, because they cannot hurt you. You’re untouched by their actions, because they have no effect on you. God stands strong on behalf of His children.
You can have a good relationship with people. There are a number of guidelines people can give you for developing good relationships such as remembering names, keeping a kind smile, giving honest compliments, being prepared to listen to people, and never arguing but supporting their views. These tips are good, but they have their limitations. The Bible says, “There is a spirit in man and the inspiration of the almighty giveth them understanding“ (Job 32:8).
Wisdom is the principal thing. The man with an excellent spirit will do everything in line with the nature of God, not to impress, but because it’s his nature to do right. He is the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus (2 Corinthians 5:21). Quite a number of people have great problems in communicating. Maybe in spite of tips and guidelines taught on communication you still experience difficulty in effectively communicating with your listeners. To communicate effectively, your words must come from your inner most being; for out of your inward part shall flow rivers of living waters Then your words will not be selfish but kind, not self-centred but considerate. Your smile will be encouraging; filled with life. That is the actual purpose of communication.
Another translation for Communication is ’Koinonia’, meaning ‘Fellowship’. “But to do good and to communicate forget not: for with such sacrifices God is well pleased.”(Hebrews 13:16) In other words, God is pleased with the fellowship or communication of believers. Our communication brings edification to the hearer. The real life will communicate to your heart. A man with a recreated spirit talks from the innermost part of his being. His words create impact, portray the virtues of God’s Spirit and bring edification to his listeners. God honours his words.
If therefore, the secret of a successful relationship borders around effective communication, it means that you are designed to prosper in this area because the words that now come out of your mouth are spirit and life. They are not mere words, but active, operative, energizing and effective, full of power to win and for results. You will touch your hearers. They will desire your words like the people that followed our Lord Jesus just to hear Him speak. No man ever spoke like Him, the people stayed with Him for three days without food, just to hear him speak. How wonderful!